Our professional relationships draw on two sets of relationship
blueprints. The Authority Blueprint governs our relationships to
authority figures, as well as our relationships to our
subordinates when we are in a position of authority. The Sibling
Blueprint governs our relationships to our co-workers.
Many companies today try to foster a sense of community (and
employee loyalty) by claiming to be one big happy family. The
irony is that even without the company's efforts to create a
sense of ...
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May 20th, 2012 in
Business
New Jersey state courts are notoriously indulgent to plaintiffs
claiming sexual or racial discrimination and will almost never
dismiss a sex or race based discrimination case, no matter how
meritless. The New Jersey Supreme Court has held that the state
anti-discrimination statute (the 'NJLAD') is not meant to be a
'civility code' and was not enacted to combat words that are
merely discourteous or rude. Instead, it is only supposed to
apply to genuine acts of discrimination'where an employee ...
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May 19th, 2012 in
Law
Losing a sale can be disheartening, especially if you lose it
for reasons you aren't even aware of.
Traditional selling approaches tell us that sales are usually
lost because of some element -- price, features, benefits --
having to do with our product or service.
So, when we sell, we naturally focus on what we're selling
because we feel we have to differentiate our product or service
so prospects understand what we're offering that's unique.
But...what if focusing all your energy on WHAT ...
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May 18th, 2012 in
Business
Your success in marriage depends largely upon having sound and
constructive attitudes toward love. For Americans, this can be
difficult. Especially because of the fictions we've been taught
since childhood, which are supported by movies and other
cultural influences. In fact, the love upon which so many base
their marriages is one or a combination of the following:
1.The appeal of the romance and adventure of marriage itself
2.The response to a person who reminds them of some one whom
they have ...
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May 17th, 2012 in
Relationships
A good portion of the enjoyment of a pleasant date is in the
anticipation. We have a date for Friday night and we think about
it throughout the week. We think about what we will wear, where
we'll go, what we'll eat, what we'll say and do. We plan on how
long it will take to get ready and whether we'll need to leave
work a few minutes early.
When we enter a relationship, we stop dating. We see each other,
of course, much more than we did in our dating days. At the
onset of living together, we ...
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May 16th, 2012 in
Relationships
Nothing in life is more devastating than the infidelity of a
mate. When your partner breaks their vows and you discover they
have lied to you, and before the altar of whatever god you
worship, the earth moves beneath your feet. It can destroy your
faith in your partner, in marriage, and sometimes even in love.
How can you ever trust them again?
Yet we know that less than 10% of marriages involving sexual
infidelity end in divorce, while the overall rate is 50%. How do
we make sense of this?
A ...
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May 15th, 2012 in
Relationships
For many of us coming up with "the" down payment for a home is
quite a struggle. There are many reasons for this, such as your
income, your family needs, your savings account is well,
non-existent. Not to long ago if you didn't have at least 10
percent down you didn't have a 10th of a percent of buying a
home. As of late it can be a very affordable 5 percent or zero
percent.
Okay now on to how it is done...
So let's say you are a first time buyer (although this also
works if you have already ...
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May 14th, 2012 in
Self Improvement
B>Relationship Strategy No.1: Appreciate your Partners
Differences
- Due to your upbringing, family background, cultural heritage
and psychological makeup, you and your partner approach life
from completely different perspectives.
- By accepting that fact, you can begin to appreciate the value
that your partner brings to the relationship. A balanced
relationship requires Ying and Yang, the male and the female to
flourish. Differing viewpoints make for a rich and rewarding
relationship.
...
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May 13th, 2012 in
Relationships
Every year over one million parents have to talk to their kids
about divorce. For each parent, the discussions differ, but the
goals of the discussions are universal: to openly and honestly
reassure your child of your love. Divorce is painful and
traumatic for all involved ' spouses and children alike. We all
happily begin our lives together full of shared hopes and dreams
and committed to a lasting and loving relationship. Yet almost
50 % of today's marriages end in divorce. How parents ...
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May 12th, 2012 in
Home and Family
OK...Let's talk about romance! The #1 most important thing you
need to turn your relationship into a great romance is DESIRE.
You have to WANT great romance in your life. Well, who wouldn't
want that? But it won't just happen...it will take some effort.
But it will be well worth it!
When asking couples why they think the romance has escaped their
relationships, the most common excuse is TIME. It's sooooooo
hard to find time and energy to devote to your relationships.
But think for a moment ...
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May 11th, 2012 in
Relationships